Relate To Others Confidently - The Big Six

"Iíve looked at paintings in galleries before but there was no interest. Now there is. Now, since doing the body language in art activities, I can focus and talk about my personal insight into them."


“Surprise is the greatest gift which life can grant us.”

Boris Pasternak (Russian poet and writer)

“Art must take reality by surprise.”

F. Sagan

We all imitate surprise sometimes. Can you think back to a time when you had to imitate surprise? Maybe it was to save someone’s feelings or prevent disappointing someone you care about.

  • Try out your fake surprise face now. What do you notice about your facial muscles? Has your posture changed? What are you doing with your hands? If you were to speak whilst imitating surprise (try “Thank you!”), how does the tone of your voice sound? 
  • If you can, take a picture of yourself with this expression and share it with someone else, or stand in front of a mirror with your friend and put on your surprise faces. How do your two faces compare? Try exaggerating your surprise face for comic effect




Pleasant surprises

  • What pleasant surprises could you arrange for someone you care about? We all sometimes lose sight of the fact that we can make an impact on the lives of others through small acts of kindness
  • Take a few moments to think about some simple things you could do for others that won’t cost any or much money. If you doubt the positive impact of your act, imagine how you would feel if you were the recipient of this surprise


Word of warning

It’s important that your ‘gift’ doesn’t have any ulterior motives attached, thereby turning it into an act of persuasion rather than kindness!
Also beware of surprises that might feel a little difficult for some people to enjoy – for example a surprise party. Keep it simple.


Examples of what other people did:

  • Called in for a cuppa with an elderly neighbour
  • Offered to baby sit for my friend so she could have an evening out
  • Cooked a nice meal for my partner and did the dishes too!!
  • Gave my sister a foot massage


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